Relationships are hard. No matter what kind they are. They all take work.
But some just aren’t worth the trouble. And most of the time we realize this before we even enter the relationship fully. But sometimes we refuse to acknowledge this.
It’s called a red flag. They are bright and bold and we still ignore them. Redditors shared the red flags that they wish they would have seen so that you can take notice.
30 Relationship Red Flags You Should Know Now Before It’s Too Late:
1) I Have/Love You?
There comes a point in failing relationships where you just start to hate the person you’re with. You’ll try not to hate them and ignore this. But the longer this goes on the less time you’re able to tolerate in their presence until you can’t be around them at all.
People who love each other don’t force each other to do things they don’t want to do. It’s not a good way to go about getting what you want or need. It’s best to try and compromise and if that doesn’t work then maybe you’re relationship isn’t meant to.
3) When Mama Don’t Like Her
Some of us have people that are always going to have something negative to say. But then there are the people we trust. And if they don’t like your significant other, you might have a problem on your hands.
4) When You’re The Afterthought
You don’t have to always be their first priority, but you should be somewhere high up on the list. Definitely not last on their priority list. But if you constantly find yourself in this position, it might be time to go.
5) Complaining About The Ex
Relationships are usually a two-way street. So, when you hear your new beau constantly talking about their ex… you might want to think about why this is. Not the best of signs.
6) They Never Apologize
Have you never heard your significant other say “I’m sorry.” Even when they did something wrong? That might be something that never changes so don’t expect it to.
7) When It’s Always Your Fault
Are you the one causing all of your SO’s bad behavior? Probably not but they might blame you for it. If so, you might want to leave now.
8) Not Boyfriend Material
If he says “you don’t really want to date me” and “I’m an asshole, girl believe him! It means he doesn’t want to be your boyfriend. He just want that booty.
9) You Don’t Know Their Friends
Have you never met your SO’s friends? That’s because they are probably hiding them from you. Or hiding another SO.
10) Public Put-Downs
Oh…freakin’…no. This is totally unacceptable. That stuff is to be discussed in private.
11) When The Past Is Always Present
The past needs to stay in the past. Otherwise, it becomes your present. Keep your problems in the past.
12) Being Able To Go It Alone
You should be able to do things that are separable from your significant other. If not, you might be looking at a co-dependent relationship. Or some other sort of unhealthy scenario.
13) Possesive Behavior
Is your SO super insecure. Do they freak out when you improve yourself? Are they possessive? Then GTFO!
14) Asking Mom
Does your SO always turn to their parents for everything? Including relationship advice? That’s kind of weird and coul dbe an issue down the road.
15) The Put Downs
Does your SO prey on your insecuries? No one needs to be in a relationship like that. It’s called abuse.
Is the person you’re dating too sensitive to take a joke. That could definitely be a problem. Especially if you’re a joker.
17) Never Hangs At Their Place
If your SO never wants to go to their place, it’s a sign. Now this Redditor’s situation is kind of sad. But they are definitely hiding something if they never want you to see their house.
18) They Need All Your Attention
You should be dating a human adult. Not a child that needs all your attention. Twenty four hours a day, seven days a week.
19) Tit For Tat
I’ll do this… if you do that. Ever hear that scenario? It’s not a very good thing to hear.
20) Slow To Text
Does your SO always have their phone out? Do you wonder why they don’t answer you right away when you know this is the case? That’s not the best sign.
21) Text Me, Text Me
Do you expect your SO to immediately text you back? Every single time you text them? You shouldn’t … be easy.
22) Negative Nancy
Everyone complains from time to time. But if that’s all your SO does it might be a red flag. Unless you really like complaining and people who complain.
23) You Don’t Like Their Friends
You don’t like their friends and who they associate with? You might want to think that through. Who they surround themselves with is a reflection of them.
24) Secret SO
This should be an obvious red flag. If you have to keep your relationship on the low, it’s probably not a relationship. Something isn’t right there.
25) Time Requirements
Do you feel like your punching a time card in your relationship. Are they keeping track of the time you spend? Maybe it’s time to spend less time with them.
26) Half Truths
Your SO should be telling you the truth at all times. Even if it might piss you off. The full truth should never be omitted.
27) Temper Tantrums
Temper tantrums are for children. If your SO is throwing a fit everytime something doesn’t go their way, that’s definitely a red flag. You should be able to pick your battles.
28) Rude To Others
Do you want someone who is rude to the waiter? Chances are they’ll be rude with you too. Big red flag here.
29) Serial Dater
Make sure you date someone who wants to date you. And not someone who just wants to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. There’s a difference.
30) The Balance Has Shifted
Has the balance in your relationship shifted? Do they make you unhappy more than they make you happy? That’s a red flag that might tell you it’s time to call it quits.